Last week I wrote about “62 million men visiting a porn site that had content described as a ‘Rape Academy’” - one in which men gave tutorials about how to drug their partners so they could do the unthinkable. While the number of men who actually were part of the group was exaggerated, there’s still a porn site with that content that gets 62 million views per month.
The name of the website is “Motherless.”
Let that sink in.
In many ways, modern culture makes us all “motherless.” Now, if you’re a mother reading this, that may piss you off. You may think about the literal blood, sweat and tears you, your mother and your grandmothers have given to this world. You may feel worn to the bone and wonder how it’s still not enough.
I’m not saying we’re not enough. I’m saying we’re living in deep disconnect from Source.
Our modern world is defined by disconnection.
Disconnection from our bodies.
Disconnection from Mother Nature.
Disconnection from each other.
The hormonally female body is predominant in yin - the essence of The Feminine. The hormonally male body is predominant in yang - the essence of The Masculine. (All bodies have both, but there is predominance). Yin is nourishment, nurturing, grounding, stability, juicy sex hormones, deep rest, the creative seed. Yang is the fiery, active, mobile energy that takes action on that and is stabilized by yin. The essence of The Feminine - the yin of our bodies and of our collective - is deeply depleted as a result of our disconnection from our bodies, Mother Nature and each other. This depletion has accumulated and been passed down from generation to generation.
We feel this depletion in our anemia, our anxiety, our insomnia, our hormonal imbalances, our autoimmune disorders, our medicalized births. We live this in the override and judgment of our body’s needs. We see this in the pathologizing of the perimenopausal transition and in the premature loss of our yin sex hormones - depletion to the point that our fire burns us up rather than lights The Path of Truth for us to guide future generations.
We experience this in our lack of paid family leave and adequate postpartum care, in our loss of third spaces, in our dissolution of Sisterhood, in our severing from our familial roots, in our disposal of our elders.
What happens to that fiery yang energy in the face of generational yin depletion?
There’s nothing to ground and stabilize the fiery yang - The Masculine. He becomes unmoored, destructive and chaotic. He’s become so distorted that he celebrates his own “motherlessness” by building a shrine to his abuse of The Feminine and tells his brothers and sons they can find their power there. Just click.
So what do we do?
We reclaim our connection to the Great Mother through our bodies. We replenish yin. Not in a philosophical way. We do this in a practical way. Through shifting the paradigm. Through living in rhythm. Through going into Source and tending to ourselves and our families from a place of deep nourishment rather than override and depletion. We swim with the current rather than tire against the stream.
And we nurture our boys with that nourishment, stability and reverence.
This is what we’ll be doing in Mothering Boys Collective starting April 30th. If you’ve seen the headlines and felt the horror and helplessness, this is where we start. Despite the rage filling our feeds, there are shockingly few people out there doing any work around the root of the issue - around mothering boys. But I can’t do this alone. Please understand how much we need each other. THIS is the medicine our culture is desperate for. Only together can we move the needle.
Will you join me?
Learn more and join Mothering Boys Collective, starting April 30th.
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