62 million men? (Mothering Boys Collective April 30th)

Right now my social media feed is filled with the “62 million men at the online ‘Rape Academy.” There are reports that the number is highly exaggerated. Regardless, it’s profoundly disturbing. As I got my boys ready for school this morning, I carried this story in the back of my mind - the horrors of men doing this to their partners and wives, coupled with the media’s exaggeration of the numbers and the flooding of our feeds. 

We’re having to process the enormity and repulsiveness of actual events, while also having to discern when we’re being manipulated into hypervigilance and fear, and what the end goal of that is. The message seems to be that if you think there are good men out there, they’re all wolves in sheeps’ clothing, so you can never rest, never trust. You’re always being hunted…even by your partner. 

How do we digest this? How do we separate what’s actually happening to us and not happening to us when it’s constantly flooding our senses? What does that do to our nervous system? 

🔻 Am I surrounded by predators? 

🔻 Are there any safe relationships? 

🔻 How do I keep myself and my children from being vulnerable?

We need a healthy nervous system to discern and protect, rather than freeze or collapse under threat. We need a healthy nervous system to be able to bond with others to build a protective community. We need a healthy nervous system to be able to orient towards and actually feel what’s good and safe in our lives.  

We have to be able to stay aware of who/what is a threat, while also having the vitality and clarity to work towards what we want to create. If we’re only focused on threat, that threat still has all the power. We take back our power by also focusing our energy on what we’re creating for a more humane and connected world…as defined by us. 

I do this by supporting women to be as vital, integrated and courageous as possible. 

I do this by supporting mothers who can raise boys to be that way too - boys who can grow up to be the embodied, attuned, emotionally mature and accountable men our world needs. 

I’ll be leading a 6-week Mothering Boys Collective starting April 30th. I’m only inviting those of you on my mailing list for this round, so we can have a smaller, more intimate group experience. 

Mothering Boys Collective Practical wisdom to nourish your body, raise healthy sons and reclaim the Village courtney-lacava.mykajabi.com

In our six sessions together we will…

1. Work with Ayurvedic wisdom for supporting your and your sons’ health, including practices to build strong vitality, strength, immunity, and emotional resilience

2. Work with Somatic practices to nurture your and your sons’ embodiment and nervous system health

3. Connect with other mothers of boys in innovative group practices to work through your mothering challenges and unleash our individual and collective power

❤️‍🔥 You can learn more and register here:

Mothering Boys Collective Practical wisdom to nourish your body, raise healthy sons and reclaim the Village courtney-lacava.mykajabi.com

We’ll meet for six 75-min sessions on Thursdays @ 10am PT/1pm ET. 

There is nothing more powerful than a heart-centered, courageous, alive group of mothers. I hope you’ll join us! 

Much love,

Courtney